… Please don’t stop the music …

Clubbing…. An atmosphere that is made up of more than just music, lights, alcohol, intoxication and dancing. It’s about the way you look in a club. How one dresses determines how others rate or categorizes you. Everyone knows that a girl takes the longest time to get ready. I know, I take an hour to get ready just for school. When it concerns clubbing, I definetly need more time. I need to decide on alot of things: from clothes till shoes. There’s an extra effort put into dressing when it concerns clubbing. Why is that so? If it is a just a place to unwind and dance, why must one put alot of effort into dressing?

Short skirts, halter tops, low cut tops, tight skinny jeans, bling bling accessories and high heels are all associated when clubbing. When one person does not follow this socially constructed dress code, they are frowned upon. What do others see in us? Do you think about other people making judgements about you? What sort of impression do you make on people that you meet for the first time when you go clubbing?

People go clubbing for different interests. Some to enjoy with their friends and others to pick up an attractive partner.

Imagine this: A girl wears a short miniskirt and is dancing with her friends on the dancefloor. A guy sees this girl and thinks that she is an easy target. He makes a move on her and she does not retaliate. Her friends push the guy away from her. This scenario shows that just because of the way the girl is dressed, the guy has the impression that she is easy. This usually happens in clubs.

I think people who go clubbing feel that for that one night, their life is on a stage where one portrays their life in a socially constructed manner. Our behaviour is controlled to create a certain impression known as self-presentation and impression management. We dress according to the “dress code”; presenting ourselves to others and our goal is to manage the impression that has already been made of us…..

……………….Is all this drama worth for one night? ………………………..

So what say you? Clubbing…. strenuous event?

Comments

zulhaq said…

hmmm, komennya gimana yah *mendadak acak acak kamus* =))

May 16, 2010 at 7:52 AM

floo said…

ayo ayo... saya bantuin... hihihi...

*bawain kmu lengkap...

May 16, 2010 at 1:12 PM

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