Seeing someone you love, love someone else

Well, that's what I'm gonna talk about today.

Firstly, no one ever said, falling in love is easy. It's even harder when you have to go through a rough patch. Once you have really loved someone it is hard to get them off your mind even when they are with someone else. Yeah, most people I know would say..Yes, it is the hardest thing, because when we love someone then we expcet that she should only love you and when you find that she is in love with someone else...it breaks your heart on the jagged edges of reality.

But life doesn't stop there. I mean, sure u can like a person, even "love" them, but what the heck, if you've done all you can and the other person just can't see that or see's that and still doesn't want to be with you, then what can you do? (no, i'm not asking.. i'm telling you.. "What can you do?")

Especially girls go "What the hell?!!! I did all this for her and she just walked off with that girl???". Look here's the thing.. if this is you're typical reaction then, guess you wern't really in love with the person. I'm no expert on love myself...but I know 2 kinds of love. One kind of love is what you get when someone wants to just be with you for the sake of being with you, but the minute, they see something better, it's over. The other kind is unconditional love. No matter what, she will always be there and you know it.

It's pretty difficult on your part especially if you already see a future with this somebody that you really love. but if you really love this somebody you will think about her own happiness even if means you sacrificing the most, it's called unselfish love. remember that everything happens for a reason. maybe this somebody is not the person that's really meant for you. someday, somewhere you'll find that special someone who will love you deeply and sincerely.

As far as I'm concerned, the hardest thing to really do, is when the one you really love, has passed away. And I'm not talking out of my hat, I'm talking out of experience. Ever since then, not a single day has gone by, when I don't wish she was alive, even if it ment that I'm not the one she's with.

So the bottom line is, If you really like someone and they don't feel the same way, It's not really you're problem, sure it's gonna hurt like hell for sometime, but you can only do so much. You can ask the person out a couple of times, and if they don't respond or back out when you least expect it, my sincere advice, move on. Again, It's not out of my hat, it's out of experience. I've done it a couple of times myself and it's happened to me a couple of times too.. fair game.

Me, I'm almost jaded, when it comes to stuff like this. Don't get me wrong, it's not that this has happened to me over n over n over..but the thing with me is, I guess I've never been into stuff like this after certain "incidents". Certain issues like, trust, loyalty and sincerity are all questionable, when it comes to the fairer sex. I'm not saying that all women are like that...just the one's I've been with.

But always remember, when you tell someone you love them, make sure it's for reasons that can't be seen in the mirror.

In my sleep

"In my sleep, we have time to play
Blowing bubbles on a warm, pretty day
My dream-bubbles, they never do break,
That’s true of my love, asleep or awake!"

Is being gay or lesbian a choice?

Kebanyakan seorang gay dan lesbian yakin bahwa menjadi lesbian atau gay bukanlah suatu pilihan. Organisasi ilmiah Kebanyakan juga percaya bahwa homoseksualitas bukan pilihan, faktor biologi lah yang memainkan perananan penting. The National Mental Health Association mengatakan, "Sebagian besar peneliti percaya bahwa orientasi seksual adalah suatu yang kompleks, dan faktor biologi. Ini berarti bahwa banyak orang yang dilahirkan dengan orientasi seksual mereka, atau bahwa itu dibentuk pada usia dini. "

Tidak ada yang benar-benar tahu mengapa beberapa orang lesbian atau gay dan yang lain lurus atau biseksual. Tapi apa yang kita tahu adalah bahwa homoseksualitas telah ada sepanjang sejarah.

Tapi Gay Menjadi Pilihan?

Tentu saja mereka yang percaya homoseksualitas adalah dosa mengatakan itu pilihan. Bahkan beberapa lesbian dan gay yakin bahwa menjadi gay adalah pilihan. Namun, kebanyakan percaya bahwa mereka dilahirkan sebagai gay atau lesbian seperti halnya aku.

Yang kita tahu adalah bahwa terapi yang mencoba mengubah seorang gay menjadi lurus memiliki tingkat keberhasilan yang sangat kecil. Kadang-kadang orang mengubah perilaku mereka, tetapi daya tarik masih ada. Seperti halnya bila kita kidal dipaksa untuk menggunakan tangan kanannya. Dia belajar untuk mengubah perilaku, tapi ini tidak mengubah fakta bahwa dia kidal.

Yang paling tepat adalah pilihan bersikap menjadi gay, lesbian, atau biseksual. Kita dapat memilih untuk menyembunyikan orientasi seksual kita, atau bahkan terlibat dalam hubungan heteroseksual, tetapi itu tidak berarti kita tidak lesbian, atau biseksual.

Apa yang kita tahu adalah bahwa orang-orang yang keluar dan menerima orientasi seksual mereka hidup lebih bahagia dan lebih memenuhi kehidupan dari pada mereka yang mencoba menekan perasaan mereka atau menjalani hidup mereka secara sembunyi-sembunyi.

So guys... born lesbian or gay, follow the ray. born straight refuse to hate... then we can live in peace and harmony....

We do what we do, and I do what I do

In some ways, it feels like we’ve all come so far. Some countries and states allow for marriage equality, more and more nondiscrimination policies include sexual orientation and gender identity, and an increasing number of LGBT individuals are letting their flames burn bright openly.

We do what we do, and I do what I do, to make this world a more loving and inclusive place. We do it all so crap like discrimination doesn’t happen.

The trajectory of progress must bend faster and harder in the favor of love and equality. And all of us need to step up to the plate.

Memaki...

Boleh donk aku memaki... satu kali ini saja...

I fucking hate you! Fuck!....!!!!
Hehehehe..... risih buat yg baca.... ya sudah....

Tanyalah pada hatimu

Seorang kawan berkata...

"Tanyalah pada hatimu, apa yang benar-benar kamu cari. Kesenangan atau Ketenangan...

Dan saat hatimu tau... Kau pun akan tau."

Heart, Don’t Change My Mind

Have you ever experienced staying in a relationship that you know is not good for you, and yet you stayed anyway? I’m sure lots of women out there have experienced this “heart over mind” situation; their mind is telling them to let go, but their heart is pleading for them to hold on. It’s not an easy situation to be in. There’s always an internal struggle going on that keeps one from having peace of mind. It’s really exhausting having to deal with that struggle each and every day. And yet because most women are scared to lose the partner in their lives, they choose to follow their heart instead.

There’s this song by Diana Ross, which is the exact same title of this post: Heart, Don’t Change My Mind. I really love this song, it’s sad and heartbreaking, and I know those who find themselves in this situation will be able to relate to this song. It really is hard letting go of someone that you have loved for so long. You’ve given everything that you have into the relationship, everything that you are, and yet it still won’t work out and you still end up with a broken heart.

What most women fail to consider is that some relationships are really not meant to be. But because of a wide variety of reasons, they force it. They think that if they just hang in there, hold on, things are going to change for the better. Wrong. If a relationship is not meant to be, there is nothing that you can do to change that. You can stay, but you’ll be miserable. What you can do, is accept reality, and move on. It’s easier said than done, but that’s the truth.

Okay, so your mind is all made up, and you’re ready to do the right thing, but what do you do when your heart refuses to cooperate? It’s not going to be an easy task, you have to have enough courage to mute your heart and listen to reason. It’s never easy, because it hurts like hell. But it’s the only way to be truly free. It’s no use staying in a relationship when you know in your heart that’s it’s not meant to be. Your heart knows it, but refuses to accept it; and this is never good. You are trapped in the struggle, and if you’re not careful, you might not be able to get out.

Bottom line is, know when to follow your heart and know when to listen to your mind. It’s very important that you learn how to control your emotions. It’s important that you own your emotions, because if you allow them, they will consume you and control you, and it won’t be pretty.

Know You No More

I could read you like a book,
Letter by letter.
I knew you by heart,
Your every scrap of thought .
We were inseparable,
Saw each other everyday.

But then I left.
I didn't have the choice;
And don't tell me we always have the choice;
We don't always have the choice.

When I came back
I saw you,
But didn't recognize you.
I knew you,
But didn't know you.

At least
Not anymore.

My heart’s not broken. Just damaged, temporarily.

My heart’s not broken. Just damaged, temporarily. It’s not anything too big to surmount. But nor is it too small to overlook.

Salah satu hal terbaik tentang hubungan jarak jauh adalah bahwa kita benar-benar belajar untuk menghargai waktu dan rasa syukur.
Dan bila waktu berpisah datang, rasanya sangat berbeda harus mengucapkan selamat tinggal. Aku merasa seperti habis diamputasi setelah operasi. Ada luka yang tertinggal dan ada yang hilang.

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