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Tanya tentang Orientasi Seksual: Kenapa Saya Gay/Lesbian?

Ada beberapa artikel menarik yang penah aku baca, dan salah satunya ini... Informasi ini hanya sebagai kick start, untuk mendalami lebih jauh (search di internet, tanya psikolog indonesia, ahli ilmu sosial, tanya temennya yang kuliah di psikologi, sosiology, study gender (anak agung), budaya gay (anak agung). Sumber informasi adalah American Psychological Association mungkin berguna sekali buat kamu yang masih bimbang atau kurang percaya diri akan seksualitas kamu, tapi bagus juga disimak buat yang (merasa) sudah mengerti. 1. Apa yang Dimaksud dengan Orientasi Seksual? Orientasi seksual adalah ketertarikan emosional, romantik, seksual, atau rasa sayang yang bertahan lama terhadap orang lain. Orientasi seksual mudah dibedakan dari berbagai unsur seksualitas yang lain termasuk kebutuhan biologis, identitas jender (kesadaran psikilogis sebagai lelaki atau perempuan) dan peran-peran sosial berdasarkan jender (kepatuhan pada adat istiadat tentang perilaku lelaki atau perempuan). Orientasi s...

Take responsibility for the way you feel!

I had a conversation tonight that got me thinking about emotions and responsibility… I think that we sometimes give other people too much power when it comes to the way that we feel. In truth, only we can make ourselves feel any certain way. Thus, we should avoid words that victimize ourselves. We can not feel rejected, betrayed, misunderstood, manipulated, etc., because that emotion doesn’t arise from you but rather from your response to someone else. When you use these words, you are giving other people power over your emotions. According to Deepak, you’ll attract people into your life that evoke these feelings–creating a vicious cycle. You can, however, feel many other things–such as happy, or calm, or lonely… even jealous. You can genuinely feel lonely without another person making you feel that way. So, take responsibility for your emotions because it is very difficult to be happy without owning your emotions. Ask yourself, “What do I need in this situation?” If your needs...

It is by chance we met, by choice we became friends.

Friendship is a strange thing--- we find ourselves telling each other the deepest details of our lives, things we don't even share with our families who raised us. But what is a friend? A confidant? A lover? A fellow email junkie? A shoulder to cry on? An ear to listen? A heart to feel?... A friend is all these things...and more. No matter where we met, I call you friend. A word so small yet so large in feeling, a word filled with emotion. It is true great things come in small packages. Once the package of friendship has been opened, it can never be closed. It is a constant book always written waiting to be read and enjoyed. We may have our disagreements, we may argue, we may concern one another, friendship is a unique bond that lasts through it all. A part of me is put into my friends, some it is my humor, some it is my listening ear, some it is real life experiences, some it is my romanticism but with all, it is friendship. Friendships forged are a construct stronger than steel b...

Somebody Please Just Shoot Me....!

Oh please just shoot me in the face....!!!