Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Seeing someone you love, love someone else

Well, that's what I'm gonna talk about today.

Firstly, no one ever said, falling in love is easy. It's even harder when you have to go through a rough patch. Once you have really loved someone it is hard to get them off your mind even when they are with someone else. Yeah, most people I know would say..Yes, it is the hardest thing, because when we love someone then we expcet that she should only love you and when you find that she is in love with someone else...it breaks your heart on the jagged edges of reality.

But life doesn't stop there. I mean, sure u can like a person, even "love" them, but what the heck, if you've done all you can and the other person just can't see that or see's that and still doesn't want to be with you, then what can you do? (no, i'm not asking.. i'm telling you.. "What can you do?")

Especially girls go "What the hell?!!! I did all this for her and she just walked off with that girl???". Look here's the thing.. if this is you're typical reaction then, guess you wern't really in love with the person. I'm no expert on love myself...but I know 2 kinds of love. One kind of love is what you get when someone wants to just be with you for the sake of being with you, but the minute, they see something better, it's over. The other kind is unconditional love. No matter what, she will always be there and you know it.

It's pretty difficult on your part especially if you already see a future with this somebody that you really love. but if you really love this somebody you will think about her own happiness even if means you sacrificing the most, it's called unselfish love. remember that everything happens for a reason. maybe this somebody is not the person that's really meant for you. someday, somewhere you'll find that special someone who will love you deeply and sincerely.

As far as I'm concerned, the hardest thing to really do, is when the one you really love, has passed away. And I'm not talking out of my hat, I'm talking out of experience. Ever since then, not a single day has gone by, when I don't wish she was alive, even if it ment that I'm not the one she's with.

So the bottom line is, If you really like someone and they don't feel the same way, It's not really you're problem, sure it's gonna hurt like hell for sometime, but you can only do so much. You can ask the person out a couple of times, and if they don't respond or back out when you least expect it, my sincere advice, move on. Again, It's not out of my hat, it's out of experience. I've done it a couple of times myself and it's happened to me a couple of times too.. fair game.

Me, I'm almost jaded, when it comes to stuff like this. Don't get me wrong, it's not that this has happened to me over n over n over..but the thing with me is, I guess I've never been into stuff like this after certain "incidents". Certain issues like, trust, loyalty and sincerity are all questionable, when it comes to the fairer sex. I'm not saying that all women are like that...just the one's I've been with.

But always remember, when you tell someone you love them, make sure it's for reasons that can't be seen in the mirror.

In my sleep

"In my sleep, we have time to play
Blowing bubbles on a warm, pretty day
My dream-bubbles, they never do break,
That’s true of my love, asleep or awake!"

Saturday, October 2, 2010

Is being gay or lesbian a choice?

Kebanyakan seorang gay dan lesbian yakin bahwa menjadi lesbian atau gay bukanlah suatu pilihan. Organisasi ilmiah Kebanyakan juga percaya bahwa homoseksualitas bukan pilihan, faktor biologi lah yang memainkan perananan penting. The National Mental Health Association mengatakan, "Sebagian besar peneliti percaya bahwa orientasi seksual adalah suatu yang kompleks, dan faktor biologi. Ini berarti bahwa banyak orang yang dilahirkan dengan orientasi seksual mereka, atau bahwa itu dibentuk pada usia dini. "

Tidak ada yang benar-benar tahu mengapa beberapa orang lesbian atau gay dan yang lain lurus atau biseksual. Tapi apa yang kita tahu adalah bahwa homoseksualitas telah ada sepanjang sejarah.

Tapi Gay Menjadi Pilihan?

Tentu saja mereka yang percaya homoseksualitas adalah dosa mengatakan itu pilihan. Bahkan beberapa lesbian dan gay yakin bahwa menjadi gay adalah pilihan. Namun, kebanyakan percaya bahwa mereka dilahirkan sebagai gay atau lesbian seperti halnya aku.

Yang kita tahu adalah bahwa terapi yang mencoba mengubah seorang gay menjadi lurus memiliki tingkat keberhasilan yang sangat kecil. Kadang-kadang orang mengubah perilaku mereka, tetapi daya tarik masih ada. Seperti halnya bila kita kidal dipaksa untuk menggunakan tangan kanannya. Dia belajar untuk mengubah perilaku, tapi ini tidak mengubah fakta bahwa dia kidal.

Yang paling tepat adalah pilihan bersikap menjadi gay, lesbian, atau biseksual. Kita dapat memilih untuk menyembunyikan orientasi seksual kita, atau bahkan terlibat dalam hubungan heteroseksual, tetapi itu tidak berarti kita tidak lesbian, atau biseksual.

Apa yang kita tahu adalah bahwa orang-orang yang keluar dan menerima orientasi seksual mereka hidup lebih bahagia dan lebih memenuhi kehidupan dari pada mereka yang mencoba menekan perasaan mereka atau menjalani hidup mereka secara sembunyi-sembunyi.

So guys... born lesbian or gay, follow the ray. born straight refuse to hate... then we can live in peace and harmony....

Friday, October 1, 2010

We do what we do, and I do what I do

In some ways, it feels like we’ve all come so far. Some countries and states allow for marriage equality, more and more nondiscrimination policies include sexual orientation and gender identity, and an increasing number of LGBT individuals are letting their flames burn bright openly.

We do what we do, and I do what I do, to make this world a more loving and inclusive place. We do it all so crap like discrimination doesn’t happen.

The trajectory of progress must bend faster and harder in the favor of love and equality. And all of us need to step up to the plate.


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